All of us are called to follow someone’s instructions. Effective leadership is not forging a solo path ahead of others; it’s learning to follow the right instructions from the right leader at the right time. Dysfunctions in Christian leadership were typically dysfunctions in followership long before they became dysfunctions in leadership. [Read more…]
Pastors’ children see the best and the worst of the church.
My father served as a pastor throughout much of my childhood, and my oldest daughter spent her first several years in our household as a pastor’s child. Although I no longer serve as a paid pastoral staff member, I teach and preach frequently in my church and in dozens of others; so, all of my daughters know very well the challenges of being seen as the children of the person who proclaims the Word. Having seen the life of a pastor’s children from both sides, I can assure you that churches possess the power either to encourage the pastor’s children or to embitter them.
So what can a congregation do to encourage the pastor’s children? [Read more…]
Dayton Moore, general manager of the Kansas City Royals, had a friend who asked him from time to time how his team was doing. Moore would begin talking about his baseball team and the friend would respond, “No, you idiot, … your team at home”—reminding Moore that his faithfulness as a husband and father mattered more than any wins or losses on the baseball diamond.
When the apostle Paul summed up God’s requirements for the church’s pastoral leaders, part of his message to would-be pastors seems to have been, “No, you idiot, … your team at home.” [Read more…]
Chap Betts, executive director of The Apollos Project, provides a grace-saturated way to encourage your pastor and minister to his children. He states:
“Too many children of pastors are casualties in the spiritual battle. After seeing the inner workings of the church, many do not want anything to do with the Lord or his people. As a teenager, I almost walked away from my faith because of the hypocrisy and disunity I saw in my church. But in my conversation with this pastor, I was momentarily speechless as I realized how little I had thought about this important question. Why? Because the church that I had shepherded for 25 years had done an excellent job caring for my own children. Today they are 22, 20, 18, and 16, and have fond memories of our relationships there. What had my own church done that so few churches do well? What can churches learn?”
Betts goes on to give readers seven ways in which the church can foster a healthy environment of grace and growth for PK’s (pastor kids). Help your pastor be a better shepherd by helping him shepherd his children. Read more here.