All of us are called to follow someone’s instructions. Effective leadership is not forging a solo path ahead of others; it’s learning to follow the right instructions from the right leader at the right time. Dysfunctions in Christian leadership were typically dysfunctions in followership long before they became dysfunctions in leadership.Continue reading.
This post adapted and abridged from The God Who Goes Before You, by Michael S. Wilder and Timothy Paul Jones (Nashville: B&H, forthcoming).
A couple of years ago, an individual who thought he might be called to pastoral ministry informed me, “I love to teach, and I want to preach—but I can’t stand people.” He went on to describe his dream position: to provide a polished exposition of Scripture every Sunday morning, to decide the church’s vision and direction, but never to deal directly with the people in the congregation. It was a pleasant-sounding dream with one fatal flaw: No such position exists in the very Scriptures that he claimed he wanted to proclaim.
What this young man needed wasn’t merely an improvement in his people skills—though, frankly, he could have used that too. What he needed was to understand the difference between cattle and sheep.
Chap Bettis, executive director of The Apollos Project, previously wrote on ways in which church members can participate in the task of helping pastors shepherd their children. In a recent post, he directly engages pastors and offers practical ways to help them guard their children from church burnout and instill in them a love for the gospel and the church. He concludes with these thoughts:
“Pastors, someday your young children will be adults. From what they see at home, would they say you love Jesus? Would they say you love them? ‘By this all people (including these children) will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another’ (John 13:35). God has called you to shepherd his flock. Your children are part of that flock. They are watching you and listening to you at home. Use that influence well.”
What Bettis writes, every pastor with children needs to read. One line from this article sums it up: “Passing the gospel to your children is vitally important—more important than being at every church meeting.” I invite you to read and absorb the seven ministry-altering practices he offers. Click here for more.
Chap Betts, executive director of The Apollos Project, provides a grace-saturated way to encourage your pastor and minister to his children. He states:
“Too many children of pastors are casualties in the spiritual battle. After seeing the inner workings of the church, many do not want anything to do with the Lord or his people. As a teenager, I almost walked away from my faith because of the hypocrisy and disunity I saw in my church. But in my conversation with this pastor, I was momentarily speechless as I realized how little I had thought about this important question. Why? Because the church that I had shepherded for 25 years had done an excellent job caring for my own children. Today they are 22, 20, 18, and 16, and have fond memories of our relationships there. What had my own church done that so few churches do well? What can churches learn?”
Betts goes on to give readers seven ways in which the church can foster a healthy environment of grace and growth for PK’s (pastor kids). Help your pastor be a better shepherd by helping him shepherd his children. Read more here.